Many people suffer from PTSD so when one of your loved ones suffer you may not know what to do and become very overwhelmed because you feel so helpless.Most of the changes in the person you care about can be simply terrifying and maybe cause you a lot of worry and strife. You have to understand your loved one can’t help that they are moody sometimes or even a little distance it’s not their fault, and when it comes to feeling helpless, don’t. Just by helping your loved one and comforting them through this illness whether the loved one is a relative, a spouse or even a friend they will need you during this very trying time. People who have support during PTSD can actually come out on top and be able to move along with life.
The first tip: Give your loved one support!
Many people who suffer from PTSD with become withdraw and distant towards the ones they love and care for the most, this is normal and actually a very common thing. You do also have to remember to give your loved one space and respect their boundary lines. If someone is feeling helpless as if they are in such grief, help them come out on top of that. Many trauma experts have said when someone suffering from PTSD has someone right in front of them and up close and personal to help them it is a very important factor that will help them overcome the PTSD.
You may wonder how to support your loved one, well here is how you do that.
When someone has PTSD it is not always the easiest thing in the world to figured out how to show then you love and how much you support them. There is no way you can make or try to force the person to be over PTSD this is simply something that takes time. However, you will be able to be that big role in their life that helps aid them in their recovery by having quality time with them.
Don’t force them to talk
If someone with PTSD does not want to talk do not force them into doing so. Sufferers who have PTSD often find it very hard to be able to talk about what they endured that caused their PTSD to arise within them. Sometimes with some people talking about what brought their PTSD on can make the healing process worse. What you can do is tell them and reassure them that if they do need to talk at all at any time that you will be there to listen to them and talk through it with them. If they do not want to talk about it simply just hang out with them to keep their mind off of it or at least try to keep their mind off of it. Many PTSD patients seem to be more at ease and feel accepted and more so by hanging out and not talking.
Do not act weird around a person with PTSD, act like you normally would on a day to day basis with them before they had signs of PTSD start to occur. Try getting the person who has PTSD to resume expire and healthy activities this can actually help also along with helping them make new friends or find a newfound hobby they can enjoy. You could even suggest a dance class or some time of fitness plan together with them, if they do not seem interested in that try doing lunch sometimes a few times a week with friends or family and them included.
PTSD patients initially need to be the ones to lead and you just kind of follow them. Every individual PTSD is very different but they all know how to keep their self-calm and what will make them feel safe. Take heed of signs from your loved one that may show you how you can best give them the companionship and support that they will need.
Tip two you need to be a good listening ear for them
Where you should never make a sufferer of PTSD talk to you if they decide they want to you need to realize you should not expect anything and just fully listen to what they have to say without judging them in any way. You need to show them when they are talking to you that you are indeed very interested in listening to them and how much you actually care but you will not have to give them advice. Actually listening to a PTSD patient will actually help them more than anything not particularly the words you speak back to them. Some PTSD patients have to talk about what happened to them more than once, this is just them trying to get through it and heal their self so do not tell them they need to stop bringing it up or that they should leave it in the past and move on from the events.
There may be a few things that a PTSD patient may say to you that you do not find easy to listen to and take in but you need to realize this is something they need and that you have to do this for them. If you seem to be casting judgment upon someone with PTSD or do not agree with what they are saying they may not feel comfortable to talk to you anymore.
Tip three you need to build their trust again and make them feel safe
When someone has been through something traumatic they will not see everything as it used to be, usually everything will actually seem a lot scarier and alarming to them. Many people can’t easily trust their instant or trust anyone else after something traumatic. So you need to do all you can and are able to do to make your loved one feel as if they can be safe and this will definitely help recovery also.
You need to show you are in the relationship for good and are committed to this. They need to know you won’t just walk away one day when things get tough and that you are here for the long stretch and you love and support them very much.
Routine is key, you need to have a set routine every day. Having structural and set plans everyday can also help a person feel more stable minded and feel safe whether the person is a child or adult. This may even include a patient with
PTSD just helping with simple things such as household chores, groceries, or having meals at a certain time.
Lower the stress level inside their home and make sure they have a space they can be in away from distractions for when they need to just feel calm and refreshed or sleep.
Talk about a future and plans with the person this can actually help by making a patient with PTSD realize that their days do not have to be numbered and that they do have a future.
Make sure if you promise them something you do not break that said promise. You can not build their trust level if you do anything less than what you say and promise to them. Show them you can actually stick to your word and do what you are saying you will.
Tip four you need to manage what triggers their PTSD
Anything can trigger someone’s PTSD. A trigger could be found in a person, something, a place, or even in certain situations that may arise that will make your loved one remember the trauma they have gone through and they could have a PTS episode or flashbacks to that day.
Some triggers you will know to steer clear of some you won’t. One example would be a person in the military may be triggered if he were to see one of his buddies from combat or even some horribly loud sounds that may imitate a gunshot. In some instances, it may take a while for some to know that causes their triggers and it may take you time to realize why a certain song may be traumatic for them. Triggers can be internally or external. Feelings inside can actually make PTSD episodes arise also.
Tip five you need to be able to help them deal with their anger
PTSD can cause people not to be able to fully control their emotions or actions. Sometimes this can be shown as being very irritable, moody, or have a fit of anger burst out.
Understanding anger in PTSD
People who have PTSD always live with emotional stress and physical stress. Most PTSD patients also suffer from insomnia. So of course they will be very tired and maybe feel very weak. Some PTSD patients try to hold their anger in and then one day unleash it on someone when they do not expect to have any anger come out.
You need to watch your loved one closely and make sure they don’t seem as if they are going to hit someone such as fist clenched or jaws, yelling or agitation. Try to defuse the issue very soon on instead of drawing it out if you see these symptoms and signs.
Always be calm when they are having an episode of rage. Doing this will actually show your loved one that they are safe with you.
Someone with PTSD needs space so make sure you do give them their own space when they need it or they meal feel threatened if otherwise.
Always talk with your loved one and see how you could help them, ask them what they need you to do to try to help them or maybe even tell them to take a time out and go rest or maybe take them somewhere to get their mind off of everything.
Make sure everyone is safe and always put safety ahead of anything. If someone is getting upset and it’s just getting worse no matter what you attempt to leave where you are or place yourself in a separate room with locked doors. If you think a loved one is contemplating suicide or hurting their self you need to call the authorities right away.